Self-improvement Step By Step

Starting any significant life changes can begin with choosing a small behavior change. Choose something you believe you can accomplish to begin with.

Physical Self-improvement

  • Write exercise time in calendar
  • Ask a friend to go with you
  • Add 2 more servings of produce a day
  • Work on an addiction
  • Drink 2 more glasses of water a day
  • Go to bed 1/2 hour earlier
  • Buy a Group-on activity
  • Share fitness tracker info with an encouraging friend

Emotional Health

  • Keep a gratitude list
  • Meditate 10 min. a day
  • Listen to motivational CDs in car
  • Compliment yourself
  • Join a group of positive people
  • Write a list of interesting volunteer opportunities
  • Make a therapy appointment


  • Read a Parks and Rec guide
  • Find Meet-ups in your area
  • Read admitting requirements to a school of interest
  • Browse for info
  • Hire a tutor
  • Watch a YouTube video on the subject


  • Schedule individual outings with each member
  • Put a family activity in the calendar
  • Celebrate birthdays and accomplishments
  • Send E-cards
  • Hug and kiss
  • Laugh
  • Make eye contact
  • Compliment out loud
  • Turn off electronics and talk
  • Tell family stories of courage

Financial Health

  • Track and categorize what you spend
  • Have savings auto-deducted
  • Look at monthly income and spending (share if in partnership)
  • Balance statements monthly
  • Take a personal finance class

 Primary Relationship

  • Forgive quickly
  • Send a card
  • Recall how you met
  • Plan a date
  • Share a book
  • Tell about something in your day that made you grateful for them
  • Touch
  • Tell them you’re proud of them
  • Attend a marriage seminar
  • Remember life is short
  •  Accept “no” for an answer without forcing your perspective.


  • Bring mindfulness and staying present to your job
  • Remember why your work is important
  • Do your best work to be in your own integrity
  • Compliment yourself on the way home
  • Commit to bringing joy to coworkers
  • Celebrate yourself and others
  • If dissatisfied explore options

Spiritual Well-being

  • Read a daily inspiration
  • Notice where you are rejuvenated
  • Spend time weekly with like-mined people
  • Visit places that inspire awe and community
  • Pray or meditate
  • Do the things that remind you you’re not alone
  • Reach out to someone you view as spiritually centered
  • Pull out old art supplies
  • Tune up an old instrument
  • Take a class
  • Reinvent an ancestor’s talent
  • Follow along with a YouTube instruction
  • Keep a journal of your ideas
  • Have lunch with another artist
  • Go to an art walk


Working with a therapist has helped many people attain their self-improvement goals.

Call 714-993-5343 for an appointment.